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When people tell you that your grief is unhealthy because it is all you talk about, maybe it is time to take time for yourself.  It is time to relax and regroup.  It may be time to step back and exhale. People who were supporting you originally are finding it hard being around you, they won’t say it but talking about miscarriages all the time can be a drag to others.  So start journaling and give your friends a break. Look for online forum support groups.  Send your friends and support circle thank you cards and let them you appreciate their support.  They will appreciate it. 

Another perfect gift to give to a “Life Gardener” (that’s what we call the group of women who are using gardening to help heal after a miscarriage) is a gardening book. I enjoy reading my gardening books, planning ahead for the next gardening season.  There are many beginning gardening books available. Along the same vein how about a subscription to a gardening magazine. I have enjoyed several magazines but my favorite isn’t specifically a gardening magazine – its Mother Earth News. (Yes, my magazine arrived recently). My perfect morning is sitting at the table with a hot cup of tea and my magazine.

Gifts from Our support group always have a gardening theme. This is one of the gifts we are planning to give for the holidays. Give a gift of spring. Gardeners love spring bulbs, they look for them starting early in February here in the
North Country and when the crocuses peek through the snow.  Take a few spring bulbs, assorted and put them in a Hessian bag- this bags are breathable, the bulbs will not spoil. Put the bagged bulbs into a wooden box (the box that the clementines came in from the grocery is a perfect box/crate).  Next, print out a copy of the flowering bulb onto card stock, and on the back of the picture write the directions of how to plant the bulb or force it to bloom indoors. Add an empty pot with some potting soil or bulb fiber to the gift box.

With all the advances in technology in the medical field it surprises me that there are not many too many advances in understanding miscarriages and why they happen.  One would think that by the sheer numbers of babies that pass on yearly, there would be call to some sort of research. Maybe the survivors of miscarriages need to speak out – there are a lot us and let our voices be heard… maybe we can create some change and give the future generations hope. I am pleased with the progress made in the research associated with SIDS and the number of babies being saved. To that end, we just need to get the message out.