Oct 23 2008
Getting pregnant after a miscarriage
One thing that crosses the mind of a woman dealing with a miscarriage is the question how soon after the loss can you get pregnant again. Most doctors say to wait three cycles before trying to get pregnant again. On average most women start trying after one cycle- without their doctor’s consent. The need to feel pregnant again has a very strong pull. The need to complete a job that one started. Being pregnant starts to take a technical like necessity. When you get pregnant before you have resolved or recovered from your loss, you are still emotionally raw. This makes the pregnancy very difficult. Emotions like guilt (for replacing you miscarried baby), fear (that you will experience another loss) and anxiety. The next nine months turn into the longest nine months of your life. It is therefore important to make sure you are emotionally stable before you start trying to have another baby. Be honest with yourself.
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I didn’t realize that I was pregnant when I became pregnant the month after my first miscarriage. It was an early miscarriage and 6 weeks later I still hadn’t had a period and took a test - BINGO.
I don’t know about waiting until you’re emotionally ready. I’d still be waiting now. The miscarriage emotional scars of 3 lost babies remain raw despite the two beautiful sons I’m blessed with.
I know a lot of women that waited over a year, they just weren’t ready. I also know some that got right to it after a couple of months, but like Katieanne, I don’t know that it was planned or expected.
I think everyone is different. Whatever helps you deal with it, I think, is best for you.
What I hate, is when someone has a miscarriage and other people say, “well you can always have another baby.” I know it’s hard to know what to say, but to me that sounds like you don’t think that baby mattered. I’ve never been pregnant, but I know that it would absolutely matter.
~Kelly
http://www.30somethingandsearching.today.com/
It matters Kelly. It absolutely matters. And when you don’t know what to say, in this instance, hug!