memorialgarden

This coming weekend on the 4^th of October we are holding our 2^nd Annual Pregnancy and Infant Loss Walk which we have lovingly termed the “Forever in Our Hearts Walk”.  The planning of this event takes a lot work and time but it is always worth it.  While in the process of looking for speakers, I came across a cluster of particular women who prefer to keep their grief private and therefore declined an invitation to speak, but will attend the ceremony.  

This made me think of ways one would go about doing a private remembrance ceremony. All you need to do is come up with a ritual and a time to reflect.  The ritual can be the simple act of yearly adding a plant to your memorial garden, a balloon release,  or even going to the beach and setting flowers adrift all while reflecting on the child that is not with you.  Our memorial garden has an area where you can leave a river rock inscribed (with permanent ink) with your remembrance message.  The rocks will then find a home in the memorial garden in a dry pond where family members can come and reflect and honor their child’s memory.  You could follow your symbolic/ritual act with a prayer, a meditation or a song that is reflective.  This remembrance can be done on the anniversary of your loss or on the babies due date- whichever date is more poignant to you.   

Ritualizing and remembering your loss is very important in your healing journey, do it only when you feel ready to let go.

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